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Is it safe to love here?
A 5 minute trust and emotional safety assessment.
If you are feeling unsure about trust, mixed signals, or emotional safety, this quiz gives you a clear score out of 100 and shows you what needs attention in your connection. You answer 33 questions and get insight you can use straight away.
You will walk away with clarity, validation, and a sense of direction.
Has something changed between you? You replay conversations. You question your intuition. You just want to know; Can I trust this connection?
If you are dating and notice anxiety or mixed signals, or you’re in a relationship and find yourself feeling insecure, questioning trust, and wondering if your fear or intuition is valid, this Quiz will give you a score out of 100 showing what needs attention.
Developed by a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Psychotherapist, this tool draws on neuroscience, attachment theory, and the most evidence-backed research on emotional safety in relationships. You’ll walk away with clarity, validation, and direction.
This assessment is an educational and reflective tool only. It is designed to support insight and emotional understanding and does not replace therapy or clinical assessment.
What’s inside
In just five minutes, you’ll uncover the answer so many people quietly carry: Is it me, the relationship, or them?
This clinically informed assessment makes the invisible visible – it measures trust and emotional safety in your relationship. It helps you see what’s happening beneath the surface and what needs attention, either within yourself or between you and another.
It helps you identify why you feel the way you do, giving you a trust and safety score out of 100 drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and world-class therapeutic insight.
Trust isn’t something we can see, but we feel it in our body, our nervous system, and the movements of another person – sometimes instantly, sometimes over time. Trust is the invisible fabric of emotional intimacy. Safety is built upon it. Trust is the quiet magic of love.
This quiz helps you measure how much of that magic is present, and how far from it you may be right now.
Why it works
It brings together what science and therapy both know: our body, brain, psyche, and relationships are deeply connected. It helps you see what you may already be sensing or feeling. That awareness can be validating and relieving.
This quiz measures the patterns that shape emotional safety, consistency, reliability, and trustworthiness – and reflects them back to you in a clear, structured way. You’re not guessing anymore. You can see it.
What you’ll get
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33 questions informed by neuroscience, attachment theory, and evidence-based relationship research.
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Discover your current level of emotional safety and where you fall on the Trust Spectrum.
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Understand whether your relationship patterns support trust, or if fear and inconsistency are eroding it.
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See your connection more clearly through behaviours, healthy and unhealthy relationship cues, and emotional consistency.
You’ll walk away with clarity, validation, and direction.
About Anne
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Anne Sureyya is a Clinical Counsellor and a Psychotherapist with over 15 years of experience helping individuals and couples understand the emotional, environmental, and relational patterns that shape their sense self-worth. Her work blends evidence-based Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), IFIO (Intimacy from the Inside Out), and integrative practices including attachment theory, somatic therapy, CBT, and narrative frameworks.
Anne is a Relationship Expert with OurRitual, a global couple’s therapy platform combining science-backed methods, psychoeducation, and guided relationship support. This partnership keeps her at the forefront of innovation in couples therapy, supporting couples navigating the complexities of modern love.
Her therapeutic style is direct, grounded, and emotionally attuned. Anne helps clients map their inner and outer world, the protective parts of us that drive over-active behaviour, coping roles, emotional injuries carried from past relationships, and nervous system responses that replay in present day intimacy. She supports people in understanding how early attachment, family dynamics, trauma, and identity complexes still shape their life today.
She specialises in self-worth, relational patterns, self-abandonment, emotional dysregulation, perfectionism, people-pleasing, identity loss, grief, life transitions, and trauma, including the grief that follows relational rupture.
Clients often come to Anne at a turning point, in the aftermath of loss, inside an emotionally inconsistent relationship, or stuck in a loop that no longer makes sense. Her sessions are not just emotionally transformative. They can be life changing. Anne’s own journey, stepping away from fantasy fuelled love, committing to a 12-month relationship detox, and using her personal stories as a living research project continues to shape her clinical work.
Her presence as a therapist is felt not just in what she says, but in how she sees, holds, and honours the people in her presence.
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