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Stay / Go
Should I stay or should I go — and how do I know?
The Stay/Go Assessment™ is a guided clarity process for anyone standing at the crossroads of a relationship.
The Stay/Go Assessment™ helps you hear the parts of you that want to stay, the parts that want to go, and see how trust, fantasy, and self-worth shape your decisions.
Should I stay or should I go?
This course helps you explore trust, loss of connection, and what it would take to either rebuild or release the relationship with calm and self-respect. It guides you back to your own inner knowing so you can see what is real, not just what you hope for, and begin to feel like yourself again.
You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone
Many people stay in relationships not because they want to, but because they can’t yet make sense of what they are losing. When connection fades, the body feels it before the mind does. We start to grieve while still together, suspended between hope and loss.
You can feel half in, half out and loyal to the history, to the time invested, to the dream of who you were together and yet quietly aware that the connection has changed. This space between staying and leaving is painful because your psyche is already grieving a bond that hasn’t fully ended. You’re not only uncertain about the relationship, you’re also unsure of who you are inside it.
I’ve worked with many women who have stood in this same space of not knowing, asking themselves: What am I doing? What would need to change for me to stay? Can I keep living like this?
The Stay/Go Assessment™ was created for this in-between place. It is the first self-guided, clinically informed process that brings together therapeutic depth, social-science insight, and identity work to reveal the truth beneath your uncertainty.
This assessment is for educational and reflective purposes only. It supports insight and emotional understanding and does not replace therapy or clinical assessment.
What’s inside
The Stay/Go Assessment™ includes the Is It Safe to Love Here? Trust Quiz, a clinically informed assessment that measures emotional safety, reliability, and trust patterns.
You begin by understanding the foundation of your connection through trust and consistency, then move through reflective mapping to see what’s keeping you tied, what’s keeping you unsure, and what would need to change for either path to feel right.
This is where insight becomes movement. You move from confusion to understanding, from emotional looping to grounded awareness of what is happening between you and within you.
Why it works
It works because it connects what you feel with what’s really happening. When you’re torn between staying and leaving, your mind and body are trying to make sense of competing truths. One part of you still hopes, another already knows something is shifting. This process helps you understand that conflict, rather than judging it.
It brings together the best of therapy and relationship science to show you why you keep circling the same questions and what your nervous system might be trying to tell you. You begin to see patterns that were once invisible, and that awareness brings calm.
It works because it restores perspective. Instead of being trapped in emotion or fear, you can finally see your situation with grounded eyes and make decisions that respect both your heart and your future.
What you’ll get
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A structured process that helps you untangle what’s driving your uncertainty and what your options truly are.
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33 guided questions that measure emotional safety and consistency, scored out of 100, helping you see how secure the relationship feels right now.
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Understand how past experiences and internalised patterns are shaping your relationship choices today.
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Recognise where hope, fear, or habit have blurred your reality, and what is possible when you begin to see things clearly.
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Meet the parts of you that want to stay and the parts that want to leave. Learn what each is protecting and what each truly needs.
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Guided writing reflections that help you find language for what has felt unspeakable and begin releasing emotional weight.
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A private, self-paced process you can complete in your own time. You don’t need to explain your relationship to anyone to begin understanding it.
You begin to see patterns that were once invisible, and that awareness brings calm.
About Anne
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Anne Sureyya is a Clinical Counsellor and a Psychotherapist with over 15 years of experience helping individuals and couples understand the emotional, environmental, and relational patterns that shape their sense self-worth. Her work blends evidence-based Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), IFIO (Intimacy from the Inside Out), and integrative practices including attachment theory, somatic therapy, CBT, and narrative frameworks.
Anne is a Relationship Expert with OurRitual, a global couple’s therapy platform combining science-backed methods, psychoeducation, and guided relationship support. This partnership keeps her at the forefront of innovation in couples therapy, supporting couples navigating the complexities of modern love.
Her therapeutic style is direct, grounded, and emotionally attuned. Anne helps clients map their inner and outer world, the protective parts of us that drive over-active behaviour, coping roles, emotional injuries carried from past relationships, and nervous system responses that replay in present day intimacy. She supports people in understanding how early attachment, family dynamics, trauma, and identity complexes still shape their life today.
She specialises in self-worth, relational patterns, self-abandonment, emotional dysregulation, perfectionism, people-pleasing, identity loss, grief, life transitions, and trauma, including the grief that follows relational rupture.
Clients often come to Anne at a turning point, in the aftermath of loss, inside an emotionally inconsistent relationship, or stuck in a loop that no longer makes sense. Her sessions are not just emotionally transformative. They can be life changing. Anne’s own journey, stepping away from fantasy fuelled love, committing to a 12-month relationship detox, and using her personal stories as a living research project continues to shape her clinical work.
Her presence as a therapist is felt not just in what she says, but in how she sees, holds, and honours the people in her presence.
If you’d prefer to try the free guide, ‘5 steps to stop abandoning yourself for love’, begin here.
